Spring has fully arrived and Beatrice has put it in her step: she has finally decided that walking suits her. She toddles everywhere very excitedly, though she often sits down whenever Michael comes near — preemptively making sure she doesn’t get bowled over by his exuberance. It’s been so sweet watching her grow. She is such a joy.

Michael, too, seems to have gone through a spring growth spurt. He’s grown more inquisitive and articulate, constantly wanting to know how things work and why things are the way they are. He’s currently trying to figure out knock-knock jokes, but he doesn’t quite have the hang of it. Right now, they go like this:

Michael: Knock knock!

Me: Who’s there?

Michael: Orange!

Me: Orange who?

Michael: OWL!! *laughing uproariously*

It’s a joke half inspired by an episode of Little Bear and half inspired by his own goofy sense of humor.

We’ve had some other cute toddlerisms recently:

Michael calls above the torso “upper body” and below the torso “downer body”

Michael: I love you!

Jake: I love you more!

Michael: I love you SIX!

Michael: I love making friends! I’m good at making friends! Mama, I can teach YOU how!

My brother was unexpectedly in town last week for twenty-four hours after touring grad schools in our state, and the kids were so delighted to see him.

Michael especially loved playing on the trampoline with his uncle/godfather. We had a great weekend of quality family time.

In household news, I successfully made (and have kept alive!) a sourdough starter. In the past when I’d tried to make a starter or been given one, I promptly killed it. But it’s been a month of success with this one! I must admit, I’m a little too absent-minded to be any good at bread-making. This might make sourdough enthusiasts cringe, but I don’t measure when I feed my starter: I just add flour and water until it looks like thick pancake batter. I’ve only made one loaf of bread so far, and it was adequate enough, but I have used lots of the discard to make crackers. The kids love them, they’re super easy to make, and they’re absolutely delicious topped with Trader Joe’s Green Goddess seasoning and eaten with hummus.

I’ve been on a sewing spree after months of not touching my machine. Again, I blame spring: I usually get bitten by the sewing bug around April. I made my dress for Pascha: I have no pictures of me wearing it yet, as I want to take some nice ones on Pascha. But I’m very proud of it and can’t wait to show it off.

One of my favorite pattern designers released a free laptop sleeve. I’ve needed one for ages, and had almost everything I needed to make one in my stash.

I hand-quilted the front and back and sewed it together in an afternoon during Bea’s nap. It was such a delight to make, even though it was my first time ever sewing with zippers. It’s a little wonky, but that’s the joy of handmade things, isn’t it?

Now that we’re not sick and we’ve taken intentional steps to reduce stress in our family life, we’ve been spending a lot more time outdoors. It’s been so good for our collective health (mental and physical). Like we used to do when Michael was a baby, I spread a blanket out in the shade of the orange tree in the mid afternoon. I bring snacks and books, and we play. Michael rides his balance bike, Bea climbs around and chases the dogs, and I read or knit or kick the soccer ball with Michael.

I’ve been thinking lately on the importance of playtime.

As a culture, we’ve lost the concept of play and good leisure time: everything must be productive or lucrative in some material sense. Hobbies become side-hustles. Having a healthy work-life balance negatively impacts utilization metrics at work. Sleeplessness and exhaustion are badges of merit. And don’t get me started on the loss of play and leisure time in the average child’s school life.

I’m the first to admit I care much too much about productivity. But both becoming a parent and reading about childhood development have convicted me about this. Play is crucial for children: there’s so much research that supports this. We need to play. It’s good for us — and not just for kids, but for adults too.

I know my kids watch everything I do (Lord have mercy). They look to me and to Jake for how to live their lives. So I really want them to see US play too. So we’ve been trying, very imperfectly, to play more. To open more space in our days for doing “nothing”, and letting the kids have those moments of boredom that lead to some of the most golden playtimes.

And of course, it’s led to me renewing my age-old struggle against screen time, finding that balance between ideals and reality. I’m sure I’ll be doing it all my life. If I had more brainpower I’d incorporate Aristotle and his concept of the virtuous mean into this blog post somehow, but instead…I’ll go play with my kids.

One of my favorite times of year is this brief moment in February when the almond trees explode into bloom, showering a carpet of white petals down our street and turning bare stick orchards into fairy wonderlands. With the occasional storm looming dark blue-black on the horizon, the flowers are often a striking contrast against the sky. Soft petals spreading against frost and wind and rain, trees blooming in spite of the storms: I’m in awe of the joyful defiance of life.

We’re mostly healthy after the storm of illnesses that kept us down for most of January. We’re now preparing for the season of Lent as it fast approaches. Given I’m still breastfeeding Beatrice and Michael is just 3, we’re taking an amended approach to Eastern Orthodox fasting this Lent — no meat or alcohol, but keeping dairy and oil. I’m also taking a break from social media (Instagram, etc) though I’ll continue writing blog posts. I appreciate the intentionality fasting requires of me: I’ve learned to meal plan for the entire week and use up leftovers in other meals. I’m hoping the social media fast also helps me prioritize intentionality in my leisure time, too.

I took advantage of our good weather and good health over the past week to work in our garden. The crabgrass had infested all the beds over winter, and it was satisfying but backbreaking work to clear it out. I also hauled a cubic yard of compost into the cleared beds to get the soil nice and ready for planting. I still have 1.5 beds to weed and one more cubic yard of compost to shovel, but all the rest are clear and ready for plants.

We now have strawberries and herbs planted as well as sunflowers and peas. I’m also trying to start a berry patch with blackberries and raspberries and planted some flower seeds to attract pollinators. We also found some frogs hiding in the beds: I’m hoping to create more spaces for them to live comfortably, while also growing and maintaining an organized garden.

Jake has been working on figuring out more efficient irrigation for our raised beds and I’ve been researching mulching methods and natural pest control, so I’m hoping we will have more success in the garden this summer. I always get excited in the spring and make grand plans, but I know that the intense heat of summer often leads to seasonal depression for me: I’m hopeful my work up front will help us have a successful garden despite heat waves and being stuck indoors during the worst of it.

Michael and Beatrice have both been enjoying the time outside. Bea still refuses to walk unless forced to, preferring to crawl everywhere at the speed of lightning. She has also learned to click her tongue and alternates between that and screeching as her main methods of expressing excitement. Our house is quite loud, quite often. I’ve taken to wearing earplugs during the worst of it.

Michael is quite the helper in the garden: he helped me shovel compost into the wheelbarrow and was my official snail hunter, helping me squish them or throw them over our fence. He also helped Jake uproot some dead trees and plant some replacements, as well as add more boards to our garden fence. It’s bittersweet to watch him grow from toddler to preschooler: it seems like yesterday he was a mischievous baby, and now he’s a rambunctious and inquisitive little boy. I’m in awe of his fearlessness, his creativity, and his kind heart.

Felix has made himself right at home: he’s gone from quiet and shut down to a boisterous, happy, noisy puppy. His wounds are healing well, and we’re scheduled for a vet visit soon to make sure he’s up to date on his shots.

He stays mostly at my parents’ house — they currently have more bandwidth to deal with all the training a puppy requires. However, on weekends he often comes over to play in our garden or chill in our living room. Michael adores him wholeheartedly. Bea is a little wary of him, given he’s a gangly pup who tends to knock her over accidentally.

I still haven’t finished any of my numerous knitting projects, but I’ve made progress! I’m focusing mostly on my homespun Traveler Cowl and my easy shawl project. I love the adventure of using handspun yarn: I’m never quite sure what it will look like until I’ve knit it. The easy shawl has grown enormously, and I still have two more sections to go. It’s going to be a delightfully large and cozy wrap when it’s finished.

The rising prices in the grocery stores have got me prioritizing food preservation and homemade snacks. I’ve been making whole wheat pita to eat with hummus for snacks and curry for dinner, and molasses brown bread for breakfasts. I’m slowly working through the stuff we have in our freezer — next, I have 24 cups of frozen strawberries to jam, and four gallon bags of frozen homegrown tomatoes to can.

I must admit, things outside my sphere of influence have been overwhelming and concerning on many levels. It’s been easy for me to look at the state of our nation and the world and get lost in anger and helplessness.

To fight this, I’ve been turning my focus to the work that’s right in front of me, and realizing what a gift it is. While gardening, mothering, and homesteading might not obviously be combating the larger issues spiraling around us, it is the work set before me at this time. It is good work. And it is a gift.

What a gift to stay home and use my time and energy to make nourishing meals and a peaceful sanctuary for any and all who walk through our door. What a gift to dig the dark earth and work with it to produce food for my family. What a gift to walk alongside my husband and nurture these two souls, readying them to fight dragons. May they be as joyfully defiant in the face of evil as the almond blossoms in the face of the storms.

What a gift.

For the first time in 2025, we are nearing a semblance of our normal routine. The kids still have stuffy noses and my dad and I are finishing our rounds of antibiotics, but we are regaining our full energy and health.

The TV has been on way too much as a matter of survival, and my reading and making habits sadly declined as I spent most of my limited free time napping or scrolling Instagram. Now that we’ve mostly recovered, we’re finally reinstating healthy boundaries around screen time. I also plan to delete Instagram and Facebook for Lent! Little steps towards being more intentional with our time.

We did have an exciting weekend, however. Jake and I were on our way to a breakfast date for my birthday/Valentine’s Day…and we ended up turning around on a highway to save a dog instead.

Jake snapped these pictures of me, his crazy wife, wading through and around a drainage ditch to get to him. The poor little guy was soaked and shivering, and had a few puncture wounds that looked like they may have come from a coyote attack. I wrapped him in a blanket and we took him home to clean his wounds and give him some food.

We were going to try to drop him at a shelter…but he’s so sweet and gets along so well with all the other animals and kids, he’s made himself right at home with us. We still are going to see if he’s got a microchip and see if anyone’s reported him missing or is looking for him at shelters — but given his state, we think he was probably abandoned.

So, his name is now Felix (from the Latin word for lucky). We aren’t sure what type of dog he is: he’s small and long and coarse haired, and seems like he might be a terrier. He’s staying days at our house and nights at my parents’ house, given they have room for a kennel. Michael especially loves helping “take care of Felix”. And everyone else is absolutely smitten, whether they’d admit it or not.

Almost all of our pets have been ones that either turn up on our doorstep or we rescue from peril, and they all come to us at just the right time. Our beloved Bandit passed away a while ago, and now it looks like Felix is here to join our little homestead.

It reminds me of a scene from one of my favorite books, Madeline L’Engle’s A Swiftly Tilting Planet.

“Aren’t you going to get another dog?”

“Eventually. The right one hasn’t turned up yet.”

“Couldn’t you go look for a dog?”

Mr. Murry looked up from the tesseract. “Our dogs usually come to us.”

Our little Beatrice is 11 months old, and her personality is bubbly and vibrant. She won’t take any crap from her older brother and shrieks to make sure he knows it. She still isn’t walking — she has taken steps here and there, but still prefers crawling. She has learned how to climb up on chairs, couches, and even the little table — usually she does so with a triumphant crow.

She stands by herself often and uses the little chairs as walkers around the kitchen too. Her favorite game is “bonk”, very much like Michael at this age: she gently touches her forehead to your forehead and waits for you to say “bonk” — then giggles and repeats. She loves banana, ground beef, and anything her brother is eating.

Michael is growing up so quickly. We’ve been reading longer books together, and right now he loves Mike Mulligan and His Steam Shovel, as well as a handful of fairy tales like Jan Brett’s Goldilocks and the Three Bears and Trina Schart Hymen’s Little Red Riding Hood. He enjoys making “packages” of magnatiles and playing mailman, and his newest game is “Cookie Factory”, where he pretends his bedroom is a cookie factory.

We celebrated my birthday earlier this month in a quiet way, given everyone was still recovering from illness. It was a lovely day, despite being sick and our plans changing last minute. Jake got me beautiful flowers and a book I’d been wanting, as well as a new e-spinner for plying my yarn. My mom made me a delicious London Fog cake. I felt very loved. As a stay-at-home-mom it’s easy to feel isolated from most of the world, especially in the midst of these crazy illnesses. I’m very grateful to everyone who reached out to wish me many happy returns.

I finished plying that handspun yarn I wrote about in my last post, and fell in love with it so much that I cast on a Traveler Cowl with it immediately, before it even fully dried (though I don’t recommend doing that).

I also finished a quick worsted weight spin from a rustic Romney wool that will eventually become another hat for Michael. It was a bit rough — I’m not very good at chain-plying yet — but I still love the colors and it’s still knittable.

I’ve been knitting a lot but haven’t finished anything: lots of bouncing between projects depending on my energy levels. My handspun Traveler cowl is growing well and I love the shifting colors. It’s nice and lightweight, so I’ll be able to wear it in the spring when I finish it. To cope with being down with the flu last week, I cast on another sweater — the Ranunculus sweater. I’m knitting it out of a cotton/linen yarn and going to make it short sleeved, so I can wear it this summer.

I’ve been spending a lot more of my free time writing, which has been a huge blessing to me. I finished a short story and I’m working on another. I’m also reading the Westmark trilogy by Lloyd Alexander, Jade City by Fonda Lee, and a collection of essays by Peter Maurin (who worked closely with Dorothy Day).

I feel like I’m slowly getting my spark back after the ultra-marathon of pregnancy and postpartum. Even though we’re still not sleeping through the night, both Michael’s and Bea’s sleeping habits have gotten a little better and Bea’s nursing less and less. The illness is abating, the sun is shining more frequently, and we made some choices to lighten the stress on our family — both Jake and I finally feel as though we’re shifting out of survival mode.

The daffodils are starting to pop up in my flower garden: little yellow buds of hope amongst the weeds of my overrun garden. There’s so much to do to maintain our little homestead it can feel overwhelming, but I’m grateful for the good work that lies ahead of us as we prepare for spring and for Lent — both manual labor and spiritual labor.

There is much that is heavy and despairing in the world. But I see Felix’s grateful puppy eyes, and hear the giggles of my babies playing together, and I’m reminded that there’s so much good, too. Children, puppies, flowers; sunsets. And the daffodils that pop up year after year.

It feels like every day in January dragged its feet, drawing the month out longer and longer. It’s felt eternal: partially due to the things happening in the world around us, partially due to the illness that keeps cycling through our house. Currently, Beatrice is fighting something suspiciously close to croup, and I’m trying to get rid of an eternal sore throat/cough that has kept coming back since late November. Praying February finds us all in better health.

But in spite of the illnesses and different stresses of life, there have been many joyful moments and much to be grateful for. Michael turned 3 years old this month, and I can’t believe how grown up he is already. He’s a blazing comet of light and joy in our lives. He loves helping me bake (and sneaking nibbles at every chance) and insisted on helping bake his birthday cake. I decorated it when he was distracted by Blue’s Clues, so he was happily surprised at dinner.

I was pretty sick on his actual birthday so we didn’t have a party, but I still wanted to make his birthday cake special. I’m no baker, but I managed to make something I thought was pretty fun thanks to a few ideas on Pinterest. He absolutely loved it.

Beatrice is nearly ready to transition from crib to floor bed, so we rearranged Michael’s room in preparation for her to move in. It’s wonderfully spacious and airy. He loves sleeping on the top bunk and calls it his “double decker bus bed”. We have a few more projects we want to do in his room, but for now it’s a delightful and whimsical haven for him and Bea to play in.

Beatrice is ten months old and has grown quite proficient in blowing spit bubbles. She still shows disdain for walking and prefers to crawl everywhere with incredible speeds. Currently because of her illness she has no voice, so her pterodactyl screech has become the sound of whistling air as she bounces up and down. But even being sick hasn’t dampened her joyful personality.

Michael has been taking a lot of walks with my parents while I take care of Bea and nap while she naps. He’s been pretty stir crazy so I’m grateful he gets the chance to let out some of that energy. Plus, the pictures my mom sends me are beautiful.

The “whys” have ramped up with a vengeance with Michael. He wants to know how everything works and the reasoning behind every decision and statement. Honestly, I thought this stage would annoy me, but I actually find it precious. We’ve had some surprising and fun conversations about everything from mice and God to gardening and babies because of his “whys”.

He also has a new game where he points and shouts “frozen!” at Jake or I and we pretend to freeze in place while he giggles uproariously. He tried to do it to his sister when she knocked over his block tower and was very upset when it didn’t work.

I’m currently in a spinning, knitting, and writing frame of mind. I knit while I’m with both of the kids during the day — it’s something easy I can do on the go that keeps my hands busy and my phone in my pocket (honestly, handicrafts have been the best in helping me keep my screen-time low). I have two shawls on the needles and a pair of mittens for Michael I just finished.

When Beatrice takes her naps, I set up a fun activity for Michael and write beside him while he plays. I’ve made some progress on two short stories and I’m hoping to finish them soon. I’ve really been enjoying writing with my LAMY Safari fountain pen — beautiful tools can transform even the most mundane tasks like making to-do lists.

Jake is fully in busy season so our evenings and weekends look a little different right now. He goes to work early and comes in for dinner, bath, and bedtime routines with the kids, then works again til late at night. So instead of us reading or watching our shows or playing cards together, I’ve been spinning while listening to audiobooks or podcasts while he works in his office or at the table.

I’m listening to both The Name of the Wind and The Eye of the World on audiobook (I find epic fantasy easier to listen to rather than read, for some reason). The podcasts I’m enjoying right now are all on YouTube: Brandon Sanderson’s SFF writing lectures he’s posting from his university classes, Andrea Mowry’s knitting podcast, and Kate at The Last Homely House’s quilting podcast.

I won’t lie, this extended time of illness has been a challenge. Life is heavy, not just for us but for everyone around us it seems. I’ve been doubling down on my simple practice of gratitude — looking for the glimmers of light when the shadows seem too great. I’m grateful for so much: friends who reach out and check in when we’re homebound, beautiful weather, good books, music, and art, toddler and baby giggles, wholesome tv shows that keep my toddler entertained while I’m sick or sleep deprived, Instant Pot dinner recipes, and the few moments of quiet Jake and I get in the evenings once the kids are asleep.

If you’re also finding the shadows to be overwhelming at times, know you’re not alone. But don’t forget that there are glimmers in the gloom, if we know where to look.

Somehow, this entire month slipped away from me. There have been so many beautiful things — adorable moments with my kids; quiet evenings knitting or reading with my husband. There have been so many difficult things — illness, toddler tantrums, teething sleeplessness, generalized exhaustion and spread-thinness. Life currently feels like a stream churning and tumbling, overfull from snow melt. We’re keeping our heads above water (barely) and being swept along at quite a pace.

Beatrice turned 9 months old at the beginning of December. She’s such a joy: she proudly sports not one, not two, but three teeth (one on top and two on bottom). She popped her first tooth the day she turned 9 months and it’s been an intense teething fest ever since.

We can see her communication cogs churning as she grows: she waves to everyone whenever she hears the word “goodbye”, and is starting to get close to saying dog and cat (“doh” and “keh”!). She is very strong willed (I know we’re ALL surprised) and screeches like a pterodactyl when thwarted. Recently, she’s also started growling and loves to growl back and forth with anyone who will indulge her. Her favorite toys are the tv remote, my unattended phone, pens, and any of her brother’s cars or trains.

Michael is a whirlwind of energy, opinions, love, rage, and giggles. His current obsession is quacking like a duck at the top of his lungs — I admit I’m eager for this obsession to end. He recently discovered Thomas the Tank Engine and loves it with all of his toddler heart. We watch the old classic episodes on YouTube and he reenacts them with his train sets. He’s continued to be hilarious and give us fun quotes to record for posterity. Here are some recent ones:

After I gave him his advent calendar chocolate: Me: Michael, you have to put it in your mouth! His reply? “Not yet! I’m thinking about it!”

As we fought off yet another cold, I heard this exchange during bedtime routine: Michael sniffled and forlornly asked Jake: “I want a new nose 😦 Can I have yours, Dada?”. Jake, also sick: “You don’t want mine, mine isn’t any better.” Michael thought for a moment, then said: “How about mama’s?”

I told Michael to stop playing with the humidifier and he indignantly said, watching the clouds billow from it: “It’s not FIRE. It’s just smoke!”

We’ve tried to indulge in some fun holiday festivities now that Michael is old enough to remember the wonder and joy of it. Saint Nicholas paid us a visit and left Michael some treats in his shoes. We made a gingerbread house all together, and Beatrice was enamored with Christmas lights. At our homeschool co-op we celebrated St Lucia day, and Michael made a “Starboy” crown.

We walked down one of the streets in town that puts on quite a light show, and Michael loved seeing the Grinch and Rudolph (his two favorite Christmas movies) lit up everywhere.

My siblings came home for Christmas — Uncle Jon has especially been a snuggly favorite.

We had our annual carol sing, and we loved singing old hymns together around the piano with friends and family.

Unfortunately, immediately afterwards a nasty cold swept through our households, knocking us down one by one. It was nice to be healthy for the first three weeks of December, but we’re all looking forward to being well again. Continual sickness is quite discouraging. At least my immediate family was able to make it to Liturgy for the Nativity before we got struck with it too.

I managed to finish Michael’s Christmas vest in time, but Beatrice’s sweater is woefully unfinished. I’ll try to finish it before her first birthday instead. So enjoy a picture of Michael being a ham and posing with his new vest. It’s made out of a gorgeous yarn my parents brought back from Ireland.

Christmas was a joy, despite half of us being ill. Christmas Eve we opened presents with the immediate family in matching pjs. Beatrice delighted in wrapping paper and tags more than the actual gifts. Michael overflowed with energy and excitement as he unwrapped trucks and trains galore.

Christmas Day some of us were well enough to celebrate with our cousins, and we had a delightful time laughing and eating delicious food together. I love watching my cousins become “aunties and uncles” to my babies.

Uncle James visited us for a few days before Christmas, then came back to spend time with us after Christmas too! Michael is thrilled to have someone to play trains with him, and they’ve been doing bedtime stories and prayers together every night.

Jake got a handful of lock-picking tools for Christmas, and James and Jake have been practicing their lock-picking skills every night this week (with Michael even joining in for a moment). They have practice locks, but have also been working on our front door. Nothing is safe from their puzzle-loving minds.

And now we’re in the liminal space between Christmas and New Years, trying to kick this illness and enter 2025 healthy. I’m proud of some of my personal accomplishments in 2024. I successfully held to a moratorium on yarn-buying for the entire year. Everything I knitted this year was made from gifted yarn or yarn purchased in 2023. And I made quite a lot of knits! You can check out my Ravelry page for the complete list, but I finished 19 different projects and have 5 in various stages of completion. I also finally, after four years of trying, hit my Goodreads goal of reading 50 books this year. I’m trying for 55 in 2025!

I have resolutions for the new year, but I’m holding them gently, like eggshells in my cupped hands. The end of this year has been a difficult one in many ways. I’m learning my limitations, and seeing just how much I need to grow in holiness to be a good mother and wife. I’m learning to treat myself gently, not like a machine to be run into the ground. And I’m learning to be present, to “be joyful though you have considered all the facts”, to quote Wendell Berry.

I’ll end with this poem by Wendell Berry that has been very fitting for my stage in life: a stage of constant movement and of standing still and waiting, a stage of beginning; getting up again and again.

Thanksgiving was a blessing; a bright day that broke through the fog of the surrounding weeks. Leading up to Thanksgiving, we’d been fighting mild colds, handling some stressful personal decisions, and helping my great-aunt recover from pneumonia.

My in-laws came for the week, which was a delight! Watching Michael bake with Oma and Beatrice cook with Opa was a highlight for me. We enjoyed sitting by the fire pit and playing games in the evenings — Michael especially loved Opa reading to him in funny voices from his dogmatic theology book.

Uncle James was a life saver and became a fast favorite playmate of Michael’s. He played cello (even figuring out how to play Farmer in the Dell for an insistent toddler), watched both kids so I could rest after a particularly rough night of sleep, and built endless railroad tracks and blanket forts.

It was also great to spend time with my siblings, who came home for a few days. I love watching them love my babies.

On Thanksgiving Day we had nearly 30 people around our tables — we were supposed to have more, but there were some unexpected illnesses and hospitalizations that prevented some from coming.

It’s a Thanksgiving tradition for us to dress nicely and take photos with friends and family. I think we got some great pictures, despite feeling under the weather. We got some great family shots for our Christmas card! And some hilarious outtakes too. Michael is quite a ham, and has learned to do fake grimaces when told to “smile”.

Unfortunately, directly after Thanksgiving Jake got a cold and I came down with a nasty flu. The flu spread to my parents and grandparents, though it thankfully missed the kids. But now both Michael and Beatrice have miserable runny noses and coughs, so we’re hunkering down yet again to weather out these illnesses. After nearly three weeks of sickness, all of us are anxious to be healthy again.

And now we’re in Advent. We’ve already been in the midst of the Nativity Fast since mid November, but as a family we still wait til the first Sunday of Advent to break out the Christmas decorations — a way we embrace both our Eastern and Western faith heritage.

Despite illness, we put up some Christmas decorations, and even put lights up outside for the first time since we moved here. Beatrice was quite excited by the sight of her first Christmas tree and tried to put everything in her mouth. Michael enjoyed watching Rudolph the Red Nosed Reindeer a bit more than he enjoyed decorating the tree, and has a new affinity for hot cocoa.

I had to explain the concept of stockings when Michael asked why we had “socks” hanging from the bookshelves. When I said that they’d have small gifts and treats to eat on Christmas Day, his response was, “like peanut butter and jelly?”

He’s had some more adorable “toddlerisms” lately.

My current favorite is him yelling at me from his room, “Come on Mama, I need someone to keep an eye on me!”

Whenever the dogs bark, he runs to the window or door proclaiming, “I’ll check it out!”

He asked if we could lock Bea up “in the cat’s room” (our laundry room) because she kept getting into his toys.

He also threw his wooden play food stick of butter into the air, happily screeching “ButterFLY!” over and over — I’m not sure who taught him that.

When he’s upset or pouting, he forlornly says, “I can’t do ANYTHING at ALL”.

After Opa finished helping him build a railroad track: “Opa! I’m so proud of you!”

And much to my chagrin, another recent quote was: “QUIET! My mama gets too much grumpy if it’s too loud.”

Advent has always been my favorite liturgical season. The more experience I have with my own human failings and with grief, the more I appreciate the quiet contemplation of Advent. I think of the refrain of the faithful: Come, Lord Jesus. The cry of Advent, the cry of the Church as we wait for the Second Coming. It contains such grief and pain, and yet such fierce hope and joy.

I just finished reading The Winter Pascha by Fr Thomas Hopko, which walks through the different celebrations and hymns of the Nativity fast and feast. It was beautiful and a much needed balm for my soul.

I’m in a season of life where I’m spread pretty thinly — like butter over too much bread, to paraphrase Tolkien. We’re learning as a family what we need to take care of ourselves physically, emotionally, mentally, and spiritually. I’m trying to learn my limitations before I run into them face-first, and often failing.

I’m reminded of my favorite poem by John Milton: Sonnet 19, written as he was going blind.

When I consider how my light is spent, 

   Ere half my days, in this dark world and wide, 

   And that one Talent which is death to hide 

   Lodged with me useless, though my Soul more bent 

To serve therewith my Maker, and present 

   My true account, lest he returning chide; 

   “Doth God exact day-labour, light denied?” 

   I fondly ask. But patience, to prevent 

That murmur, soon replies, “God doth not need 

   Either man’s work or his own gifts; who best 

   Bear his mild yoke, they serve him best. His state 

Is Kingly. Thousands at his bidding speed 

   And post o’er Land and Ocean without rest: 

   They also serve who only stand and wait.”

Sonnet 19, John Milton

Like Milton, I’m fighting despondency at my limitations. But who best bear his mild yoke, they serve him best.

This Advent, I don’t have much to offer. I am among those Milton references in that beautiful last line: they also serve who only stand and wait. Right now, all I’m doing — all I can do — is sit with these profound mysteries of the Church in the slivers of silence I have to myself, and pray.

Come, Lord Jesus.

It’s been a wild ride the last few weeks. Jake had a birthday early in November: he turned 30 years old, and I had secretly planned a party for him. His best friend flew in from Michigan and completely surprised him: we pretended to be doing a Mario Kart game online together, and instead of joining the match virtually, he walked in the front door.

We had an awesome week together, including a visit to the train museum which Michael greatly enjoyed.

The surprises didn’t stop there! Family and friends flew in/drove up for the party: two of Jake’s sisters and Jake’s younger brother were able to surprise him too.

Then we had the party itself! Friends and family came from all over — San Francisco, Los Angeles, Utah and Ohio! — to celebrate with us. I didn’t get many pictures once the party started — we were having too much fun playing games and drinking old-fashioneds (Jake’s favorite cocktail).

It was so nice to see so many loved ones and to celebrate Jacob and his 30 wonderful years, and the many more to come.

Beatrice turned 8 months old at the beginning of the month as well, and her little personality is beginning to shine. She is so funny, intense, wriggly, and strong.

She has recently decided that spoons are her mortal enemy and being spoonfed is an indignity. She absolutely must feed herself with her own two hands or nothing gets past her tightly clamped lips. However, she still has no teeth, though symptoms of teething persist. She also snuck a big bite of Michael’s breakfast muffin and consequently got her first taste of chocolate.

She can stand by herself for a handful of seconds, but otherwise is content to (rapidly) crawl everywhere and pull up/climb on everything. She very clearly says “Mama”, “Dada”, and “nehnehneh” (nursing). Whatever her older brother is doing or playing, she wants to be in on it too. She is fully a Daddy’s girl, and will crawl straight to him whenever he’s in the room, demanding to be held. When music is playing, she will dance and bounce up and down with a huge grin.

Michael continues to amaze and challenge me: he’s so smart and kind and never stops moving for a second. He wants to be tumbling, somersaulting, jumping like a frog, or running at all times. We recently got him a rocking balance board to help him get some of his sensory-seeking energy out.

He continues to be obsessed with all things that go — trains, garbage trucks, cars, tractors, bulldozers, and more. He has a will of iron and a blazing curiosity, and a steel-trap memory. He often recites his favorite books to himself as he plays, and improvises parts he doesn’t fully remember.

We get some sweet one-on-one times during Beatrice’s naps: we recently began playing Candy Land together (though he loses interest quickly so often I have to rig the game). We also enjoy water coloring and playdough and kinetic sand activities.

It’s beautifully brisk and overcast most days now, and I’m fully embracing soup season. A common dinner is soup and soda bread, and it’s nourishing to the soul as well as the stomach. My current favorite recipes are this pasta e fagioli and this Irish soda bread. The house is often full of the smell of bread, or cookies, or simmering broth. It’s like a warm embrace for the senses.

Unfortunately, both kids have been sick this week — Michael fought whatever it was rather quickly, though he’s still a tad under the weather. Beatrice, however, is still fighting a gnarly fever that’s kept us all awake through the wee hours.

My making practices have been slower of late, given the illnesses and the company and the prep for Thanksgiving as it approaches. When sleep deprivation ramps up, writing is one of the first things to back-burner. Words often get stuck when I’m fatigued, and no amount of coffee will dislodge them. But knitting replenishes my soul, so I try to find a moment or two each day for a few stitches.

I finished a bonnet for Bea, a small scarf for me, and cast on a new shawl to add to my pile of WIPs. I’m definitely procrastinating on Christmas knitting, which is becoming dangerous as we approach December.

With the hectic pace of life right now, I’m grateful for the early sunsets and the calm that comes with the darkness. I try to savor the moments I can during the day, but I find myself looking forward to 8 pm, when the kids are asleep and the kitchen and living room have been cleaned and reset for the morning. I light a candle, I make peppermint tea, I pick up my knitting, I talk and laugh with my beloved and we read in silence or watch a tv show/podcast together.

I’ve begun a compilation of Dorothy Day’s writings, and they’re a consolation and a joy to read. I’ll end this post simply with a quote from her that greatly resonated with me: I hope it resonates with you as well.

October raced by: I feel as though I blinked and suddenly it’s November. I failed to reach my self-imposed deadline of two posts a month — though technically this was written the last night of October — but better late than never.

It’s been very busy around here: we took care of the property for a couple weeks while my parents were away on a trip, making sure all the plants and animals stayed alive and well. (They brought Michael back a double decker bus and a backhoe, so he has forgiven them for their long absence.) It was mostly uneventful, though it did make me grateful we live in community: taking care of everything by ourselves is more work than we can sustain long term. I’m grateful we can share the work load between families and have everyone benefit.

A lot of our life recently has been in survival mode as we deal with two sleepless kids and tend to the homestead. While Michael has started to sporadically sleep through the night (praise God), Beatrice, our formerly “easy sleeper”, has spurned the title and now fights naps and bedtime with nearly as much gusto as her big brother. For the past week, she’s been up close to every hour at night — I blame teething, since she still hasn’t popped any teeth.

I try to focus on the joyful moments: I know this season won’t last forever. On my fridge calendar, I’ve written a reminder that gets me through the best of days and the worst of days: You will never have this day again. It reminds me on good days to cherish these memories — this time I have with my babies is short and sweet. On bad days, it reminds me that I won’t have to repeat this day ever again, and tomorrow will be kinder.

There are many, many joyful moments — I try to remind myself to look for them daily. One of the things that I especially love about being a parent is being a tradition-keeper. I think back on my own childhood — the different traditions we kept as a family greatly impacted me, and I cherish my memories of those small family rituals. Now that I have my own family, it’s my job to pass on or create traditions that our children will grow to cherish. Maybe that’s why I love autumn so much: it’s full of small rituals that brought us together as a family.

Carving pumpkins was always something I enjoyed growing up, and so I passed that tradition on to my kids. Michael loved helping me scoop out the guts until he got some on his hands, then he decided to let me finish the job. I carved a classic jack-o-lantern face for him, and he helped me place the candle. Then he painted his own pumpkin (and I helped Bea with hers).

For Halloween this year, Michael was excited to be Saint George, using his dress up toys I got on sale from Sarah’s Silks. I made Jake a dragon head to wear last minute. Beatrice was a bee (the choice was obvious) and I wore one of our beekeeping suits.

I’ve been trying to prioritize more outdoor time now that the temperatures are less oppressive, but it’s been difficult with a very squirmy baby who insists on moving as much as possible and putting everything in her mouth. However, we still manage to spend some time in the late afternoons out in the garden. Michael helped me harvest the last of the peppers and tomatoes — brilliant splashes of orange and red amidst the fading greens. The overgrown garden desperately needs to be cleaned up and put to bed for the cold months, but I don’t see that happening anytime soon with my current energy levels and free time.

Gardening is always a humbling reminder of my own limitations, but I refuse to give up on it. It might turn into a wilderness halfway through the summer as I struggle with the balance of motherhood and homesteading, but watching Michael giggle and wade through the weeds to pick tomatoes makes the labor (and failures) worth it.

Maintaining a garden is another important tradition to me. There is something deeply human about keeping a garden. When you tend the earth, it tends you back. Gardening is something I want my children to grow up doing, and something I want to grow old doing — even if I’m terrible at it right now.

I jumped into autumnal cleaning (another thing that’s become a tradition for me) and went through the house organizing, rearranging, and gathering unused items for donation. It was very satisfying and helped me relax: clutter is a huge contribution to stress for me.

Going through the kids’ clothes also helped me plan my next knitting projects for them. Both kids needed new hats for the cold months. I had one already in the works for Michael, and finished it with a few days of dedicated knitting. He loved it so much that he refused to take it off (or let me fix the brim) for the entire day. He still wears it every morning when going to feed the dogs with Jake. Now another bonnet for Beatrice — I’m hoping to finish one before the end of November (in the midst of all my other various knitting projects).

For my own wardrobe, I finished sewing my Chanterelle Pants. I took my time with these: every seam is carefully finished (French seamed or flat felled) to ensure there are no raw edges and the garment will last a while. I’m very proud of them and plan to wear them often.

Toddlers particularly thrive on routine and ritual — I’ve noticed how much smoother our days progress when we stick to familiar patterns. So right now we’re making the same recipes, watching the same movies, and cycling through the same sensory games and toys. I love seeing Michael’s comfort and safety in the familiar, and also his joy at repetition and mastery.

Lately, I’ve been struck by how pivotal traditions are to our lives whether we’re aware of them or not. From our morning coffee to our bedtime prayers, rituals shape our minutes and hours, forming our days; our lives. We really are creatures of habit — even if we scoff at ritual, we can’t escape it.

So even in the moments of exhaustion, I’m trying to be mindful of my daily habits and the routines that set for my children. Is my morning ritual scrolling my phone with my coffee, or reading books with my coffee? Are dinners a time of togetherness and peace or frustration and hurry? And to keep myself from being overwhelmed at all the things I’m not doing, I just tell myself: you’ll never have this day again. And I focus only on the things I can do today.

One habit, one day, one moment at a time.